Infidelity is normally considered as having a sexual or emotional relationship with another person while you already have a relationship of commitment with somebody else. First of all let us discuss its disadvantages. It is generally considered as a betrayal of trust or a breach of a contract. It does considerable harm because once trust is gone it usually takes time to build up. Divorce may follow. Lives of not only the couple but of their children may be adversely affected.
A lot has been said about infidelity being useful if your partner is being unfaithful or is just a horrible person in other ways. You can teach him/her a lesson by having an affair yourself and then presto! He changes overnight into a man or woman of your dreams!
Unfortunately life is not so simple and I must confess that I believe this to be a totally useless method, because as far as I’ve heard good self- example can have an effect on your partner but imitatating your partner is unlikely to bring the desired result. Two wrongs can never create one right. This will lead to more misunderstandings and then to ultimate chaos.
There was someone who wrote in his blog post about this married man, who was having an affair with another woman. When he finally took her to bed he found she was nothing compared to his wife in the art of sex. After this discovery he broke up with her. However did it not occur to him that if he went to a third woman she might be better than his wife? Ofcourse it would have occurred, one single dismal experience would not have stopped him.
Before we go further a word about the cause of infidelity. One of the causes of infidelity that has been so much talked about is because of some defect in the character of your partner. Defect in character like for instance him or her having an affair, being a nag, being violent and so on the list could go on. However there is one other reason...
It is time now to stop beating about the bush and come straight to the point, the truth as I’m sure everybody deep inside is aware of is quite simple really – he or she wants variety…a different experience, a different lover! Unlike the manmade institution of marriage, nature made humans to bond with many and infidelty provides the oppurtunity and thus it is an exciting adventure. The restrictions of morality, religion and civilisation came much later but how successful have they been in eliminating what nature created? There is no cure for this problem except understanding and accepting the various ways a human mind works and deviates. If you are one of those exceptional people, who truly believe in remaining faithful to whomever you are attached to – then either reason with him or her like an intelligent and rational person or turn a blind eye for a little while that is whenever you know he or she is being unfaithful. It’s not very often, usually after very long times somebody may wish to have a new experience. Reason or ignore, he or she will come out of it, they usually do and in the process you will save the family from disintegration
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Links:
http://www.guardian.co.uk/media/2005/aug/11/bskyb.broadcasting
http://www.guardian.co.uk/theguardian/2000/apr/14/features11.g22
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